positive thinking thought #32
CAUSES OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM We start forming our self-esteem, positive or negative, from the day we are born. We develop feelings about...
We start forming our self-esteem, positive
or negative, from the day we are born. We develop feelings about ourselves that
are reinforced by others.
Negative Self-Talk or Negative
Auto-Suggestions
This is when we say to ourselves,
consciously or unconsciously, statements such as:
- I have a poor memory.
- I'm not good at math.
- I'm not an athlete.
- I'm tired.
Such statements only reinforce the
negative and put ourselves down. Very soon our mind starts believing these
statements and our behavior changes accordingly. They become self-fulfilling
prophecies.
Environment
Home
The greatest thing that a parent can give
to his children are roots. The best part of a family tree is the roots.
Noticing a little girl's courteous and polite behavior, the teacher asked,
"Who taught you to be so courteous and polite?" The girl replied,
"No one. It just runs in our family."
Upbringing
"Fellow citizens, why do you turn and
scrap every stone to gather wealth and to take so little care of your children
to whom one day, you must relinquish it all?"
In order for our children to turn out
well, we need to spend twice the time and half the money. It is less painful to
learn in youth than be ignorant as an adult.
Parents with high self-esteem breed
confidence and high self-esteem in their children by giving them positive
concepts, beliefs, and values. The reverse is also true.
It is a great heritage to have honest
parents. Parents who participate in crooked business deals unfortunately set
bad examples for their future generations.
A strong role model or mentor could be a
parent, relative or teacher who is held in high regard. During their formative
years, children look up to adults in positions of influence. Even as adults, we
look to our supervisors and managers as role models.
--Socrates
LITTLE EYES UPON YOU
There are little eyes upon you
and they're watching night and day.
There are little ears that quickly
take in every word you say.
There are little hands all eager
to do anything you do;
And a little boy who's dreaming
of the day he'll be like you.
You're the little fellow's idol,
you're the wisest of the wise.
In his little mind about you
no suspicions ever rise.
He believes in you devoutly,
holds all that you say and do;
He will say and do, in your way,
when he's grown up like you.
There's a wide-eyed little fellow
who believes you're always right;
And his eyes are always opened,
and he watches day and night.
You are setting an example
every day in all you do,
For the little boy who's waiting
to grow up to be like you.
BUILDING CONFIDENCE
A young couple used to leave their
daughter at a day-care center every day before going to work. As they parted company, the
parents and child kissed each other's hands and then put the kisses in their
pockets. All during the day when the little girl got lonely she would take out
a kiss and put it on her cheek. This little routine made them feel together
even though they were physically apart. What a wonderful thought.
What Makes a Child a Delinquent?
- Teach him to put a price tag on everything and he will put his integrity for sale.
- Teach him never to take a stand and then he will fall for anything.
- Make him believe that winning is not everything. It is the only thing and he will make every effort to win by hook or by crook.
- Give a child everything he wants right from infancy and he will grow up believing that the world owes him a living and everything will be handed to him on a platter.
- When he picks up bad language, laugh at him. This will make him think he is cute.
- Don't ever give him any moral or ethical values. Wait until he is 21 and let him "determine his own."
- Give him choices without direction. Never teach him that every choice has a consequence.
- Never tell him he is wrong, he might develop a complex. This will condition him to believe that society is against him when he gets arrested for doing something wrong.
- Always pick up things that he leaves lying around--books, shoes, clothes, etc. Do everything for him so that he will learn to push all responsibilities onto others.
- Let him read, watch and hear anything he wants. Be careful what he feeds his body, but let his mind feed on garbage.
- In order to be popular with his peers, he must go along to get along.
- Quarrel frequently when he is present. This way he won't be surprised when things fall apart at home.
- Give him as much money as he wants. Never teach him respect for or the value of money. Make sure he does not have things as tough as you did.
- Provide instant gratification for all sensual desires such as food, drink, comfort. Deprivation can cause frustration.
- Side with him against neighbors, teachers, etc., as they are prejudiced against him.
- When he gets into real trouble, excuse yourself by saying, "I tried my best but could never do anything with him."
- Don't put your foot down because you believe discipline takes away freedom.
- Prefer remote control to parental control in order to teach independence.
- What children get, they give to society.
CHILDREN LEARN WHAT THEY LIVE
If a child lives with criticism, he learns
to condemn.
If a child lives with praise, he learns to
appreciate.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns
tonight.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns
to be patient.
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns
to be shy.
If a child lives with encouragement, he
learns confidence.
If a child lives with shame, he learns to
feel guilty.
If a child lives with approval, he learns
to like himself.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns
justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns
to have faith.
If a child lives with acceptance and
friendship,
he learns to find love in the world.
Education
Education
Being ignorant is not shameful, but being
unwilling to learn is. Role models can teach through example. Children who are
taught the importance of integrity during their formative years generally don't
lose it. It becomes a part of life, which is what we are looking for in any
profession, whether in a contractor, attorney, accountant, politicians police
officer, or judge. Integrity is a lot stronger than honesty. In fact, it is the
foundation of honesty.
Youths are impressionable. When they see
their mentors--such as parents, teachers, or political leaders--cheating with
pride or bragging about petty dishonesty such as stealing a towel in a hotel or
cutlery from the restaurants, the following happens:
POOR ROLE MODELS
A schoolteacher asked a little boy what his father did for a living. The boy replied, "I'm not sure, but I guess he makes pens, pencils, light bulbs, toilet rolls, etc., because that is what he brings home every day in his lunch box."
- They are disappointed.
- They lose respect for their mentors.
- Constant exposure breeds acceptance in them.
POOR ROLE MODELS
A schoolteacher asked a little boy what his father did for a living. The boy replied, "I'm not sure, but I guess he makes pens, pencils, light bulbs, toilet rolls, etc., because that is what he brings home every day in his lunch box."
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